Save Your Christian Marriage...

  Dear Friend in Christ: You have found this site in a search to heal your marriage.  Your marriage is not where it should or could be. Perhaps it is even headed for divorce. You may be in great pain, feeling the constant agony of a crippled relationship. It may be that you see the writing on the wall, or perhaps your spouse has even said it:  your marriage is headed straight into the ground! You may have given up all hope.  Maybe you are terrified, but still hopeful. I am here to tell you that it can change.  In fact, I am here to tell you that your marriage can not only be restored, but can actually become the marriage of your dreams!  You really are married to your soul-mate! Do You Recognize the 9 Early Warning Signs of Pending Marital Disaster? Let’s Take A Quick Quiz About Your MarriageAnswer the questions below to see where things are right now. 1) Do you find yourself frustrated with your marriage, trying to make changes, only to find you are right back into the same old pattern? Yes       No 2) Do you or your spouse frequently think about getting out of the marriage? Yes       No 3) Are you and your spouse frequently engaged in an argument, often about nothing of importance, and find that there are rarely solutions? Yes       No 4) Are you convinced that this is relationship is not what God would want, but don’t know how to make a change for the better? Yes       No 5) Do you find yourself arriving at the same conclusion: “We just can’t communicate”? Yes       No 6) Do you find yourself shocked that you were ever attracted to someone so different? Or conversely, do you think the big problem is that you are just too much alike for it to work? Yes       No 7) Do you frequently find yourself feeling either unloved or disrespected? Yes       No 8) Do you wonder how or if this crazy cycle can ever be ended? Yes       No 9) Would you love to find a solution to these problems that would move your relationship to a healthy, Godly place? Yes       No If you checked any “Yes” responses to the above questions, it is time to really look at what is going on in your relationship. If You Don’t Act Now, You’ll Regret It Later! It’s just too easy to do nothing.  And then another day, week, month, then year passes with only worsening issues. Or a letter from an attorney arrives! Let’s face it: we live in a culture that constantly calls us away from our marriage.  In fact, we live in a society that not only approves of divorce, it makes it easy to get. But together, you and I can work to change that, saving one marriage at a time, starting with yours! Actually, it will be you, me, and God making that change possible. Listen To A Personal Messagefrom Lee Baucom, founder ofSave Your Christian Marriage   Did you know that the rate of divorce among Christians is actually HIGHER than the general population? I can’t begin to tell you how surprised I was to hear this! We are a people called to be faithful, to be forgiving, to be loving. . . and we end marriages more often than the general public.  That trend must stop!   Let’s agree to change this fact, you and I working together to renew your marriage. Divorce and broken marriages is not God’s plan. God’s plan was for marriage to be a lifetime.  As I’m sure you have heard often, in Genesis 2:24, God tells us that “for this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife.  And the two people will become one body.”  When we become one body, it is a forever thing. Where is your relationship?  Is it where you want it to be?  Is it where your spouse wants it to be?  Is it where God wants it to be? What Are Your Options? You see, you really have only three choices: You can live with things the way they are. . . Suffer You can just get out of the whole thing. . . Divorce You can change the marriage for the better. OK, I have my prejudices.  Obviously, 1) isn’t working.  You have already decided against that, the proof being that you found your way to this website! And 2) isn’t much of an option for those of us who believe God’s Word.  So, the best answer is 3), accomplished of course, with God’s help. If you are like most people, you have tried to make changes, tried to figure things out, and maybe even saw a little improvement here and there.  But things just seem to either drift back to the way they were or get worse! Do You Make These Mistakes? Do you find yourself: Arguing with your spouse to try to get them to see your point, while they argue back to get you to see their point?  (Neither of you will win.) Ignoring the situation, hoping time will heal? (It will only make it worse.) Trying to manipulate your spouse into going your way?  (You become dishonest.)